Temper Tantrums
Toddler Temper Tantrums
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toddler temper tantrums
Managing Temper Tantrums
Tip 1
- If you can, look for the signs that your child is going to have temper tantrums and use distraction techniques.
- If your toddler is beginning to tantrum try holding them close until they are calm again.
- Sometimes our toddlers just become overwhelmed and out of control.......holding them close can help to make them feel secure and loved.
- Carry on with the activity that caused the tantrum when your little one is calm again.
Tip 2
- If your child is angry try getting down on their level holding out your arms and saying "you're cross aren't you"?.
- You may well find your toddler dives straight for you, relieved that you understand.
Tip 3
Try helping your little one to solve his or her problem........help to put her shoes on etc.
Tip 4
- Try ignoring the temper tantrums ....stay where you can see your child so you can keep them safe.
- If you need to just turn your back.
- You could try doing something in the same room so you are busy (this can make some toddlers even more angry)
Tip 5
- Throughout the temper tantrums keep calm yourself.....use a low calm voice to speak to your youngster.
- Sometimes even whispering helps as your toddler stops crying to hear what you are saying.
Tip 6
when your child is in the middle of temper tantrums copy him or her.........if you have tried this you will be amazed at the reaction from your little one.
Tip 7
- You could try time out. Place your toddler either on the bottom stair or in a room that is safe
- (I never use bedrooms as they are supposed to be a nice, safe, happy place for your child to sleep in).
- Do not communicate with your little one (not easy as they can suck you in by engaging you in conversation).#
- You could try this for a minute for each year old they are.
- When you return ask your child to say sorry and then hug and make up.
- You may need to repeat this if the behaviour persists.
Tip 8
- If your toddler cannot calm down from a tantrum after a while, or an older child is saying "I cant calm down", then step in and help them,
- this may be offering the hug they refused earlier or simply sitting with them or using a distraction technique such as making them laugh.
- You are not giving into then if you do this as you will still be carrying out the activity your toddler had refused or still denying them that packet of sweets.
- You are offering them a safe way of calming down, this will build trust for your child as he will know that you will help when he asks for it.
After Temper Tantrums
- Make sure you give your toddler a hug then move on.
- You may want to say "I know you were angry because........I'm happy that you are calm now".
- Make sure you continue the activity you had been going to do.
- If you had asked your little one to put on shoes or coat before the tantrum then continue with this now.
Tips for you
- Try to take care of yourself as much as you can. get a babysitter and go out for an evening.
- Hire a movie or have a soak in the bath and read a good book.
- Make sure you get enough rest.
- Letting anybody else who cares for your toddler know how you are dealing with temper tantrums will help consistency.
- Have a united front between you and your partner.
- Be as positive as you can be with your child and praise the good behaviour.
- Lavish love and kisses, have fun when you can.
- Enjoy your toddlers enquiring mind.
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terrible twos for more tips.
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